(Apologies to those of you who came to read about life in Panama, today I’m just a titch philosophical.)
Now, I know that my practical mind (y mi mama’s) looks at the title of this post and instantly says; “Phhhhhfffff!” But in my evolution to become a better person, who is not so critical of others, I’ve began reading a lot of books that I’ve owned for a while and just browsed through in my busy former life. I don’t want to call them self-help books, but books that delve into what a good life should be and how to find peace within myself. The last two weeks I haven’t been too good at working toward my goal. I’ve been hyper critical of most things that I see around me and so yesterday I sat back and had another one of those “Ah ha!” moments.
I’d like to blame my grumpy emotions on hormones (apologies to my male readers) or the rain and maybe that’s a good excuse. Or not, because there really is no excuse for me running off at mouth and being grumpy. Sometimes it’s just best to sit back and observe. And sometimes I should follow my advice.
I found a website quite a while ago called Marc and Angel Hack Life. I think it’s a popular site for those of us who are trying to make our way in the world without causing too much damage along the way. I know at least one of mis amigas reads it. Occasionally I’ll find something inspiring on the blog and I’ll repost it to Facebook, but yesterday the topic of forgiveness resonated with me and I had to explore it a little further. Particularly because the story begins in a yoga class and I’ve returned to yoga practice, something that I immensely enjoyed a long time ago at a fairly stressful time in my life and now I am enjoying again, simply for the pleasure of it. And I’m wondering if all the twisting and bending and looking inward is bringing up some anger and emotions that have been dormant and pushed away for a while.
If you’ve continued reading this post thus far then you really should go read the full text on Marc and Angel’s site. But to summarize the ten points that were made, here they are:
Forgiveness allows us to take responsibility for our own happiness: Most of what we attract into our lives is a mere reflection of what is inside of us;
Forgiveness allows us to see everyone in our lives as a teacher: Family members, spouses, friends, bosses, etc. – everyone is brought into our lives to teach us more about ourselves;
Forgiveness helps us stop playing the victim card: Adjusting your perspective to a place of forgiveness and gratitude allows you to no longer play the victim card;
Forgiveness makes us aware that most people are doing the best they can: Have compassion for where other people are in their lives;
Forgiveness forces our own level of consciousness to expand: The process of growth is continuous;
Forgiveness teaches us to keep our expectations tempered: We should never be expecting anything from anyone;
Forgiveness teaches us to tone down our instincts for self-preservation: Too often we injure one another simply because we are trying to protect ourselves (financially, emotionally, etc.), even when it’s at someone else’s expense;
Forgiveness creates a space to let go and love: Not everyone and every situation is meant to be a part of our lives forever; and
Forgiveness is the best revenge: A bit of sarcasm in this one, but it’s so true. You can always seek revenge positively by creating a better future for yourself.
Imagine what our world would be like if we practiced just a little forgiveness every day. My intent is not to promote naivety but to take a look some of the harm I may have caused that has been purely unintentional. To take a look and see if there is something that I’m holding on to that is causing me harm. To ask forgiveness from those that believe I have caused them harm. Today, I choose to remember that we are all only human, with human faults and emotions. And today I’ll practice forgiveness and tomorrow hopefully a little more forgiveness. And I’ll keep trying to do it until it becomes automatic. I want to share my forgiveness with all of you because life is too short to hold on to past resentments and because today, life is pretty darn good in the campo.
Read, share, discuss. And pass it on.